“A man is not diminished by honouring a woman. He is defined by it.” – Thabo Mbeki
This month, under the theme Men Who Honour, Communities That Protect, we begin by exploring what positive masculinity really means. Positive masculinity is the practice of showing strength through respect, fairness, and accountability. It moves away from dominance and control and builds a model of leadership based on care, inclusion, and honour.
For too long, many men have been taught that masculinity means silence, toughness, or authority. But these old ideas often create pressure, isolation, and harm. Positive masculinity replaces that image with something stronger — a man who protects by listening, who leads by example, and who stands for the safety and dignity of others.
For men with disabilities, this can be a dual challenge. They must not only redefine strength in a world shaped by patriarchy but also in one shaped by ableism. Both systems tell men that control equals worth. Yet, when a man with a disability shows empathy and fairness, he disrupts that old story. His strength lies in self-awareness, not dominance. He teaches others that leadership and care can coexist.
This form of masculinity is not only about gender — it is about humanity. It reminds us that men and women, disabled and non-disabled, all play a role in creating communities built on respect. Every act of care, kindness, or accountability becomes part of a safer world.
As we move toward International Men’s Day on 19 November, we recognise and celebrate men who live this truth. Men who honour women, protect children, and stand for equality show that strength is not measured by control, but by courage and compassion.
In the next post, we will explore the role of allies and role models — those who live these values every day and help others to do the same.